Have you ever found yourself longing to try something new with your sex life? It can be overwhelming to know where to even start when bringing up a potential new sexual activity with your partner. If you just Google that topic, you are going to get a lot of results that are probably more intense than you are expecting. This is why many couples consider adding BDSM into the bedroom (BDSM covers a lot, so if you’re new to kink, check out this blog).

Roleplay is considered one of the milder forms of BDSM, so it can be a great place to start when trying something new with your partner. It involves two or more people bringing a sexual fantasy to life. Common scenarios are teacher/student, doctor/patient, and royalty/servant. You can begin with products that help you get in character through this link. Roleplay also provides a lot of benefits not only sexually, but in your relationship, and with your mental health. Here are some reasons you should add roleplay into your bedroom routine.

Add variety to your sexual experiences

This is probably the most obvious benefit and is the reason most people start bringing roleplay into their relationship. When you get comfortable in a relationship, it can be very easy to slip into a routine and begin putting less energy into your sex life. Roleplay can be a great opportunity to create an experience unique to you and your partner that can satisfy you both.

It can help you be more creative. It can give you a reason to put more thought and effort into sex. This can make you more present and cause you to feel more connected with your partner. Roleplay can also be a gateway into branching out even further with your sex life. Use this as an opportunity to become more comfortable trying other new things.

Increase communication with your partner

Most people don’t realize this benefit comes with roleplay. You and your partner will get the opportunity to create a more comfortable space that allows for open communication within the relationship. In order to roleplay successfully, there has to be open and honest conversation. If that isn’t there, then there is a good chance that one or both of you will be uncomfortable and won’t be able to fully let go and get into the characters you are trying to portray. By pretending to be someone else, you are showing your partner who you are and who you want to be.

You must have trust within your relationship to suggest fantasies and choose one to play out together. That can be a very intimidating and scary conversation. As humans we are always worried about being judged, especially by those closest to us. But if there is solid and established trust in your partnership, you will both feel more comfortable opening up to each other and finding the sexual activities and scenarios that turn you both on. Then watch as sex becomes even more satisfying.

Explore sexual desires

No two people are exactly the same. We are all unique human beings, so it is no surprise that everyone has a unique combination of fantasies and sexual desires. It can be hard to try and find out exactly what your desires and fantasies are. If you decide to try roleplay in the bedroom with your partner, it can give you the opportunity to try new things and decide what you like. Over time, you will find different things that really work for you, therefore learning more and more about yourself in the process.

Improving mental health

Orgasms can help your brain produce more serotonin and other chemicals that make you happy. Sometimes various issues, like being self-conscious or struggling with anxiety, can prevent people, from being able to reach orgasm. Roleplay can help break down those barriers because you are portraying another person. Once you fully let go and embrace the character you are portraying, you begin thinking like them instead of yourself. Also, if your sex life begins improving and you are clearly both enjoying it more, it can increase your self-confidence. You may begin to see that you’re more comfortable in your body and that you are loving yourself more and more.

Bringing roleplay into your relationship can be a little awkward at first. You may not be used to acting and figuring out the character while also trying to be sexy. Through open communication, and not being afraid to laugh at yourself, you can get through the awkwardness. Laughter is completely acceptable and can even bring you closer to your partner! Give yourself some grace to not be perfect at it from the beginning. There is no harm in trying something new! Even if it isn’t for you, try something else. The goal is to try and find something new and to increase the connection between you and your partner. So why not pick a scenario and some characters and give it a try?

Kaitlyn Craig
Kaitlyn (she/her/hers) recently graduated in May 2022 from Northern Kentucky University with a bachelor’s in English. She loves reading, writing, and crocheting (specifically stuffed animals!) She is from Paducah, Kentucky, and has worked for Pure Romance since July 2022. She is very passionate about talking about books and the various impacts they can have. She even has a podcast called "The NeverEnding TBR." She would love to one day be an author and create characters that can impact others the way her favorite characters have impacted her!